Welcome to a new mini-series here on Blushing in Hollywood all about how to make and keep things sexy in your relationship. If you are single and dating these tips are also going to be very helpful. I think people can get in a rut where your partner starts to feel just like a buddy, but it’s important to keep the romance alive.
First of all, a clean home is a sexy home so this is going to take some work on your part. The good news is that it’s your home so you’ll reap the benefits even when the date is over!
Cleaning – This is not a fun chore, but I do love having friends and dates over because it forces you to clean your place.
1. Bathroom Basics: Put away anything you don’t want the other person to see- medications, your enormous makeup collection, etc. Clean around the sink area and the mirror. Close the shower curtain/shower door (make sure the shower is clean if you think someone might be taking one).
Clean up all the hair– bread trimmings in the sink, dust bunnies in the corner, clumps in the shower on the wall or in the drain. Make sure there is a (recently emptied) garbage can that is lined and preferably that has a lid because this is important if you’re going to have a lady over who needs to throw lady things away.
There should be at least one rug in your bathroom and a towel on the floor doesn’t count. You should own at a minimum 4 bath towels, but preferably more (the best place to find the cheapest ones is at TJ-Maxx type stores). There also needs to be a place for the towels to hang to dry.
There should be soap (preferably liquid not bar) near the sink for washing hands and you should own hand towels for drying hands. There should be plenty of toilet paper on the holder and extra in an easily accessible location. Throw away the empty rolls. Have a container of flushable wipes out and available.
Bathroom Extras: Mouthwash with tiny cups and spare (new obviously) toothbrushes. A nice candle burning.
Guys- make sure there is conditioner in the shower if you think your girl is going to take one because 98% of us use it or just go ahead and buy girly shampoo, conditioner, body wash and a loofah in the travel section at Target for us.
If you don’t want her to ruin your towels with makeup, you may want to have some clean washcloths handy (or check out How to Gently Remove Makeup and Stop Ruining Your Towels).
Have some common medications on hand like Tylenol, allergy meds (especially if you have a pet), etc.
Worst things I’ve/my friends have seen in a bathroom: No toilet paper, no towel, no/broken door for the bathroom(!!?), overflowing trash can, easily visible condom wrappers in the trash can, toothbrush or toothpaste somewhere that looks dirty, guy peeing in my toilet and not only leaving the seat up but not flushing, hoarding a disturbing amount of books and magazines by the toilet.
2. Bedroom Basics – Make your bed. You have to have more than one pillow. Change the pillowcases at least, but preferably change the sheets. Put away all clothes. Keep a large bottle of water on your bedside table or bring one with you when you go into the bedroom. Put a box of tissues on the night stand. Keep your condoms (make sure you have plenty!) and any other sexy stuff you might need in a drawer in your bedside table or somewhere you can easily grab them from your bed. When you have to get up and get them from another room it kind of kills the moment.
Bedroom Extras: Freshly cleaned sheets or sheets sprayed with your perfume/cologne. A set of backup sheets just in case. A few small bottles of water. A tower fan can help air circulate and mask sounds. A candle.
Worst things I’ve/my friends have seen in a bedroom: Mattress on the floor, sleeping bag instead of real bedding, bed covered in dog hair, only 1 pillow, pillows covered in drool stains, dirty tissues and trash on floor, another girl’s panties, pictures of their dead grandma way too close to their bed, stepping in dirt then stepping on my dry clean only silk pillow, throwing used condoms on the ground, sprinkling shreds of condom wrappers all over the floor like they’re confetti, a guy’s knee bled all over my bed and ruined my sheets, dog pee in the corner, a blanket over a window instead of curtains.
3. Kitchen Basics: Clean the whole thing. Get rid of any food past the expiration date. Empty the garbage. Clean all the counters and surfaces as well as the floor. Put away all of the dishes you just cleaned.
Have some kind of finger food ready to eat and on the table like cheese and crackers or bruschetta. Have some kind of chocolate around. If you drink have a bottle of wine and a wine key as well as wine glasses and/or their favorite type of liquor and mixer. Have enough real cups that you don’t need to use Solo cups. Dish towels and a dish rack are things you should have.
Kitchen Extras: Stock bottled water (both still and sparkling if you want to get extra fancy) in the fridge. Have popcorn and a big bowl ready for watching movies or Netflix binges. Fresh flowers always look great and make you look like more of a grown up. If you’re not sure what they drink Champagne can be fun and sexy.
Worst thing I’ve/my friends have seen in a kitchen: Bugs! Not owning any dishes.
4. Living Room: Again, make sure it’s clean. Have some coasters nearby. Light some candles, but don’t light too many scented candles (use unscented ones as well to break it up) if you’re going to light a bunch. Dim the lights. Have music on instead of the TV- try Pandora stations like Stevie Wonder or Frank Sinatra.
Living Room Extras: A cozy blanket. Fresh flowers. If you have a fireplace lighting a fire is a really nice touch even if you’re in LA and it’s only 65 degrees out. If you have a patio lanterns and white Christmas lights can help set the mood. Have stuff to do that doesn’t include the TV like a board game.
Worst thing I’ve/my friends have seen in a living room: No artwork or decorations of any kind.