So my friend Rachel is getting her Masters at USC and asked if she could interview me all about Bumble and dating as a millennial. I said sure! And she really blew me away with how amazing the video came out!
Here’s her description: “Dating organically is a thing of the past, the new trendy and relevant way to meet the love of your life is through dating apps. Specifically Bumble has taken off as a successful and woman run company over the last few years. It urges its female users to initiate conversation and even holds events regularly for their members. I will follow Lindsay Cockburn, a doctor and blogger, in search of love in Los Angeles county, to a bumble event, where she will eat, drink, work out and possibly mingle. Then interview her about the new way of bumble app dating, the upsides and challenges that she encounters and why she feels this is necessary to meet new people in today’s society.”
Bumble Los Angeles Events
This was actually my 2nd Bumble event and I went to a 3rd, a Happy Hour Mixer at Crustacean Beverly Hills, later that week and it was fabulous. Bumble hosts amazing events! If you want to find out when the next event will be check out the Bumble Los Angeles Facebook Page.
I’ve been dating online for over 10 years now. I’ve helped friends with their dating profiles and after taking my advice they have found serious long term relationships, gotten engaged, and some are now married and have kids together. I think that relationships with other people and the experiences you have with those people are what life’s all about.
When you begin dating online or using dating apps it can be overwhelming. In the beginning you can get so much attention it feels like you’ll need to hire an assistant to organize all of your potential matches. Then after a few days or weeks it feels like the exciting spotlight you had is now gone and you’re just having the same boring conversation over and over.
Maybe you send out messages and no one ever responds. Or you wonder why you’re not seeing anyone you’re interested in or getting those exciting “It’s a match!” pop-ups anymore. How can you re-ignite your Tinder flame and feel hot again? How can you get people to turn into heart eye emojis that immediately swipe right on your profile? How can you make sure you’re matching with the right kind of people? How can you stop the never ending supply of pen pals that want to text you all day and never meet up?
I’ve made a guide with my top 3 all time best online dating tips. Whether you’re just getting started dating online or you’re a veteran online dater who is feeling burnt out on online dating these tips are for you!
A friend came to me recently asking to recommend some good free dating apps. She is currently going through a separation and didn’t want it to show up on a credit card bill (could you blame her!?) I posted back in January the Dating Apps to Try in 2017which included Hinge, Bumble, The League, Happn, and Coffee Meets Bagel. All of these apps you can use for free, but have in-app purchases available. The good news is that these apps don’t have to directly charge your credit card- you can always buy an iTunes or Google Play gift card and load it to your account and then make the purchase!
My friend also doesn’t live in a big city which means that not all of these apps are currently available to her. I’m also going to skip Coffee Meets Bagel because for some reason this app does not appeal to me and I barely use it.
Is Bumble my favorite dating app? No, but it is the only one that I know of where girls must send the first message. Instead of giving guys a hard time with their lack of creativity I thought I’d give the ladies some tips. If you’re in dire straights where your perfect match will expire if you don’t say something immediately and you can’t think up the perfect opener then you have my permission to “Hey” them, otherwise try to do better! People notice and appreciate individual attention.
Messaging on Dating Apps
The best openers have a question that can be answered within a sentence or 2 max. What brings you to LA? Wow your job sounds cool how did you get interested in that? Can have complex answers and are better asked on the date itself.
Try your best to ask them a question about something specific to their profile- people like the individual attention and don’t feel like just another bee.
Rhetorical questions are not real questions and they’re non-starters. How’d you get so cute? Wow pretty and smart, how did that happen!?
Small talk questions are non-starters. Big plans this weekend? How was your weekend? How’s your week going so far? How are you? What’s up? How’s your 2017 so far? LAZY. This reads as “will you please do this creative work for me I don’t feel as though you are worth the effort.” I tend to lob these back with a similarly lazy “good, you?” so they can try again.
Statements are not questions. Wow I thought I was the only one who liked XYZ. Nice eyes. Great hair. You’re from x you must be this kind of sports fan! It’s ok to give compliments or make cute observations, but a question is required.
Happy New Year everyone! Did you know the New Year, New You vibe makes early January the peak traffic time for dating apps and websites? Everyone wants to start fresh when January comes so now is the time to start (or re-start) using those dating apps! Here’s a few to try that are free: Continue reading Dating Apps to Try in 2017→