Category Archives: Dating

Starting a Blog or Website

Hi everyone! I encourage anyone and everyone who is thinking about making a blog to JUST DO IT! It is so much fun and it is never too late! No one can offer what you can because your perspective is totally unique!

Here’s a few tips/FAQs about starting:

Where did you buy your domain?

I bought blushinginhollywood.com from webhostinghub.com on 7/14/15. I pay $14.99/year for domain registration.

Where is your website hosted?

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Adderall and Compliments Podcast Episode

I’m so excited to share that I’m a guest on the most recent episode of the Adderall and Compliments Podcast! The host Annabelle DeSisto and I have been BFFs for 10 years now! She is actually the reason that I live in Los Angeles.

Annabelle DeSisto and I back in our "Car Modeling" days in Palm Beach (or is it West Palm Beach?)
Annabelle DeSisto and I back in our “Car Modeling” days in Palm Beach (or is it West Palm Beach?)

On the podcast we get into how we met, rumors I heard about Annabelle in high school, insane dating stories, why Annabelle inspires me so much, the Adderall and Compliments live show in New York, how to complain less (see below for some quick tips) and MUCH MORE!

8 years ago today Annabelle and I had lunch in #NYC with Paul Rudd who is exactly what you’d hope he’d be like irl! I would share my grilled cheese with him any day. I’m finally going back to #NewYork in 2 weeks with @annabelledesisto @meagangrainger @tashareignslife @msjessicajay @jaclynmarfuggi @jmscomedy @nancydesisto for the #AdderallAndCompliments live show Saturday 4/14 at 12pm at @slipperroomnyc 🤗🤗 What should I do in #newyork ? Tea at the @theplazahotel ? Drinks at @nobunewyork ? Dinner at the polo bar? Where should I get 🍕?? . . . . . . #paulrudd #annabelledesisto #nycpizza #instanyc #instany #instanyclove #nobu #tbt #iloveyouman #satc #theplazahotel #slipperroomnyc #slipperroom #podcast #rhony #noeyebrows #2010

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Also since we forgot to get into it- Annabelle’s mom Fancy Nancy gave me the nickname “Kinsey Lockburn”. She is writing a book called “Ready, And” and decided to name a character after me and hence, Kinsey Lockburn was born.

Some of the blog posts we talked about on the podcast:

Sonja Morgan’s Beauty Secrets includes info about her facialist!

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Annabelle even announces in this podcast episode that she will be attending the Real Housewives of New York premier in NYC next week! So exciting!

Cameran Eubanks from Southern Charm’s Beauty Secrets

Cameran Eubanks from Southern Charm has beautiful classy and understated makeup, a great fake tan, and super long natural lashes. Find out how she does it!

Southern Charm Star Patricia Altschul’s Beauty Secrets

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Tips for Complaining Less:

We usually complain when something is making us uncomfortable. It feels like steam is building up inside of us and we have to let it out, but instead we can use the steam to push us or motivate us to do something about it.

How can we complain less?

  1. Acknowledge it. Pay attention and be mindful to what you are saying and notice when you are complaining.
  2. When you notice you are complaining start talking about solutions instead.
  3. Once you’re done discussing solutions, pivot to talking about what you’re grateful for.
  4. Avoid negative complaining people, it’s contagious. Being around complainers releases a stress hormone in your brain and makes you age more quickly!

How to Start a Blog or Website

I also wanted to share that I just created a page with some FAQ about starting a blog and/or website. I get lots of questions about how to do this and I think anyone who is thinking about should go for it!!

Follow me on Instagram @blushinginhollywood for more Motivation Mondays! Be sure to subscribe to Adderall and Compliments and rate the podcast 5 stars as an early birthday gift to Annabelle!

 

The Best Time of Year to Use a Dating App

Good news, The League posted some data on their blog that I had just been searching for! The League is an “elite” dating app and is basically Tinder for the college educated 30+ crowd with decent pictures and a somewhat witty “About Me.”

After working on my post Is Cuffing Season a Good Time to Meet Someone? I had wondered when the dating apps really peak. I know that dating apps get the most singles logging in and using the app in the first week of January, but I feel like the magic begins before that when everyone is at their parent’s house bored and tired of being single. Here’s what The League’s data has to say:

And since their infographic is tiny, here is the rundown:

  • Best days to log in and swipe: Dec 11-13
  • Best days to send a message: Dec 22-24
  • Best days to exchange phone numbers: Dec 28-30
  • Best days to go on a date: Jan 4-6

Don’t worry if you missed peak “log in and swipe” time. Sunday nights are when dating apps are the most active so you should be getting matches even if you begin swiping this week. Want to break the ice, but don’t know what to say? Check out my What to Message a Guy on Bumble post (the openers work for messaging any gender!). If The League isn’t available in your city or you just want to try a different app check out these posts: Free Dating AppsDating Apps to Try in 2017.

When have you had the most luck on dating apps? Do you find it easier during a certain time of year? I sometimes like to swipe through people when I’m at home in Florida just to see what’s available. Typically it’s a lot of guys holding dead fish or one time there was a guy wrestling an alligator #FloridaMan.

Is Cuffing Season a Good Time to Meet Someone?

Tis the season… to get into a relationship? Cuffing season is here where single people (hand)”cuff” themselves to a partner so they don’t have to brave the winter (and holiday gatherings) all alone.

What is Cuffing Season?

“Cuffing Season” is the time of year beginning mid-Septemberish when summer has come to an end and single people start looking for relationships. Cuffing season happens because it’s dark and cold and single people don’t want to be the only one without a partner for Thanksgiving/Hanukkah/Christmas/New Years. People who normally are comfortable casually dating more than one person  at a time are too tired and cold to put in the effort. They want to find a partner they can stay cozy and warm together inside. They also don’t want to have the annual conversation with their parents about why they aren’t married yet.

When is Cuffing Season?

Cuffing season begins during the fall and really heats up near Halloween. Starting to date at Halloween is the perfect amount of time to be dating for it to not be awkward to spend the holidays together. Halloween also coincides with daylight savings time which is another incentive to cuff. Plus for girls who were dieting for Halloween this may be their peak body time and they’d really like to put on a sweater, get a boyfriend, and start eating again.

Is Cuffing Season a good time to meet someone?

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The Ultimate Breakup and Recovery Guide

Break up pain is the worst. The sadness, feelings of loss, the disappointment, fear, and hole you feel inside of your heart can be all too real. It can feel like you’ll never recover. Or if you do, you’ll never find someone as good or ever be as happy as you once were. Add a healthy dose of self loathing and “What did I do wrong!?” on top of that and you are under a garbage heap of feelings that it can feel impossible to ever escape.

Want to figure out why you broke up, do’s and don’ts for short term and long term recovery from a break up, what the hell you’re supposed to do now?, if things will ever get better, or how to improve your self-esteem that feels like it’s in the toilet? This is the post for you. Or maybe you are thinking “Why am I even reading this? I’m smart I can get over this it will just take time.” Keep reading to find out why you can’t overcome a breakup with just logic. Continue reading The Ultimate Breakup and Recovery Guide

Free Dating Apps

A friend came to me recently asking to recommend some good free dating apps. She is currently going through a separation and didn’t want it to show up on a credit card bill (could you blame her!?)  I posted back in January the Dating Apps to Try in 2017 which included Hinge, Bumble, The League, Happn, and Coffee Meets Bagel. All of these apps you can use for free, but have in-app purchases available. The good news is that these apps don’t have to directly charge your credit card- you can always buy an iTunes or Google Play gift card and load it to your account and then make the purchase!

My friend also doesn’t live in a big city which means that not all of these apps are currently available to her. I’m also going to skip Coffee Meets Bagel because for some reason this app does not appeal to me and I barely use it.

Free Dating Apps With Paid Upgrades Available

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Blushing in Hollywood Blog Turns Three

I can’t believe it’s been over three years since I started this blog! I made my first ever infographic to mark the milestone, celebrate, and to have something to look back on!

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The Name “Blushing in Hollywood”

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Men Love This Perfume on Women

My friend Spencer Scott who is a perfume collector told me on Valentine’s Day 2016 that she had been wearing a perfume that guys love. I smelled it and really liked it’s feminine, sweet scent and then kind of forgot about it. When the Sephora VIB Sale came around I purchased a perfume sampler that included this perfume and I started wearing it. She was not kidding about guys liking it- I ALWAYS get compliments on it from dates and Uber drivers as soon as I get in their car. I don’t know if it’s because it’s strong when you first apply it, but they almost all immediately say “you smell good.” It’s almost comical at this point! I haven’t had guy pinpoint exactly what they like about it, but I’m guessing it’s just nice, feminine, luxurious, and clean smelling. My hunch was even confirmed on a quick Google search where it was mentioned on this message board. And the perfume is… Continue reading Men Love This Perfume on Women

What to Message a Guy on Bumble

Is Bumble my favorite dating app? No, but it is the only one that I know of where girls must send the first message. Instead of giving guys a hard time with their lack of creativity I thought I’d give the ladies some tips. If you’re in dire straights where your perfect match will expire if you don’t say something immediately and you can’t think up the perfect opener then you have my permission to “Hey” them, otherwise try to do better! People notice and appreciate individual attention.

Messaging on Dating Apps

  • The best openers have a question that can be answered within a sentence or 2 max. What brings you to LA? Wow your job sounds cool how did you get interested in that? Can have complex answers and are better asked on the date itself.
  • Try your best to ask them a question about something specific to their profile- people like the individual attention and don’t feel like just another bee.
  • Rhetorical questions are not real questions and they’re non-starters. How’d you get so cute? Wow pretty and smart, how did that happen!?
  • Small talk questions are non-starters. Big plans this weekend? How was your weekend? How’s your week going so far? How are you? What’s up? How’s your 2017 so far? LAZY. This reads as “will you please do this creative work for me I don’t feel as though you are worth the effort.” I tend to lob these back with a similarly lazy “good, you?” so they can try again.
  • Statements are not questions. Wow I thought I was the only one who liked XYZ. Nice eyes. Great hair. You’re from x you must be this kind of sports fan! It’s ok to give compliments or make cute observations, but a question is required.

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